How to Organise a Sikh Wedding Day

Because there are different religions in India, there are both Sikh and Hindu wedding events.

A Sikh wedding celebration can rouse every emotion, with strong historic references, the joining of family groups, sadness for lost loved ones as well as tears of happiness for the love of the young couple, the deeply thoughtful ceremony and breathtaking garments.

There are endless possibilities for creating thoughts with each intimate and formal photographs, of the day itself and throughout the complicated wedding plans.

Starting with the approval the community elders, the happy couple have the certainty that they have the support of the whole community for their married life together.

For this and everything else the wedding planner is essential. The planner is aware of the complex road that must be worked out to reach this wedding, sure in the knowledge that custom is observed and recorded appropriately.

The very first priority, once the wedding date is fixed, is to dispatch wedding invitations. Here ancient Punjabi tradition directs that the first and most important invitation is to God. This is given as a card, at the Gurdwara, the Sikh Temple, accompanied by a gift of sweets.

Another custom is to carry important articles of Sikh faith, like the Kirpan, a ceremonial sword or dagger that is carried by the groom. Kirpans are often handed down through generations, they can be objets d’art and carry a wealth of history with them.

Before their big day the couple must endure being parted for six long weeks ! This seems like ages to a young couple in love, who will be nervously anticipating their wedding day. Both family groups will be so excited and very much involved. Immortalizing the exhilaration with a wonderful mosaic of professional photographs makes an invaluable time capsule to look back on in the coming years.

Connecting families together is important, as it establishes strong bonds. This underscores why the wedding is such a significant event for the couple’s family, in particular their mums and dads. The long awaited wedding day is gorgeous too.

Dazzling in red and gold, with jewellery and lovely henna designs on her hands, the bride arrives at last. Having the chance to produce the outstandingly gorgeous jewellery for a Sikh wedding celebration is a dream come true for a jeweller. Precise designs and richly colored gems can be included, perhaps in a gift to the bride from the groom, or as a thank you to the mum of the bride and the groom. Jewellery is also a cherished token for the bride’s attendants.

Culture also determines the groom can not see his bride so he wears a beaded veil as his wife-to-be enters the Gurdwara. This adds to the suspense as the family groups gather at the Gurdwara for the wedding. In times previous this would have been the first encounter of the families. An important moment to cherish in the photos for many years ahead.

The time has come for the wedding ceremony to start. The Sikh holy book, Guru Granth Sahib, is at the center of the ceremony. The happy couple and their parents stand while hymns are sung, then a blessing for their married life is offered. The functions of marriage are said, reminding them of the seriousness of their vows, with customary words of fidelity and commitment. The bride and groom bow their heads before the Guru Granth Sahib, four stanzas (Lavan) are sung, then the groom leads his bride around the holy book four times.

The couple are now wed, and can look forward to celebrating with their friends and families at the reception, where the importance of family and society is magnified even more.

Usually big, big celebrations are held, which give the young couple the chance to proclaim ‘we are here’ as they begin married life together. The wedding coordinator will have been in overdrive preparing all the moving parts to guarantee a successful event. Sports venues make great locations for receptions on this scale and could be transformed into enchanting places filled with the sights and sounds of traditional music and dancing, creating reminders of ancient farming practices of the Punjab, far away.

Following a fantastic party, eventually the moment arrives for the bride to go to her family home as a daughter for the final time. From here she leaves, symbolically, to live with her husband’s family. This might be a sad and emotional parting, but it is very important to remember that the family members are now wed and have become one combined family.


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